Brian and I were spending way too much time (as usual) walking through Homegoods last weekend when I saw a canvas with a quote that caught my eye:
The quote really resonated with me and got my mind going down several different paths. Obviously with the Holidays upon us, gifting is abundant. Personally, I’ve always been big into giving gifts. I am not naturally good at verbally communicating my appreciation for people, so I tend to do so via writing and gifting. I’ve always believed that the definition of a gift is accurate in that there should be no expectation of compensation or reciprocity. I have seen this in so many people all over the world. People dedicate their time to helping those less fortunate, even those they may not really like or love, simply because it’s the right thing to do.
Obviously giving something to other people makes us feel good too, but there have been some challenges to gifting that extend beyond the self-gratitifcation rationale. Some sociologists have argued that there is an inherent expectation of reciprocity when people give gifts (example here
). I’ve read though some of these concepts, and while they may be valid for a certain sub-set of people, I don’t believe they are the norm. I have seen way too often people step up to help people without expectation.
I’d prefer to focus on the many people in the world doing things for others or giving gifts to others without expectation and use that as my inspiration. We may not all have the artistic talents of Pablo Picasso, but we can all use our blessings and gifts and share them with others. I hope you all enjoy your time with family and friends and enjoy the experience of giving and receiving gifts as gestures of love and appreciation.